Posted by: lanag87 | October 9, 2013

Week 39: Waiting game & fears

I’m trying to be patient but patience is not one of my virtues.

This Saturday, October 12th is the due date. Next Wednesday, October 16th, is the due date we originally got so it’s the one I’ve been pretending is the real one to make the time go by a little faster. And Sunday, October 20th, is the day we’ve scheduled an induction. Or an eviction notice. Same thing really.

As of the last doctor’s appointment:

Weight & heart rate: normal

Effaced: 75%

Dilated: 1 cm (hoping tomorrow will be increased, fingers crossed)

Some people have asked why we scheduled an induction, and it’s a little complicated.

Partly it’s because a week is long enough to go late – I’ve heard stories of problems caused when babies stay in too long. Not to mention I have this giant fear of a baby boy getting bigger and bigger while the opening to the real world stays about the same size.

But the other part is my mother’s birthday is October 24th, and I would really like to make sure he doesn’t share the same birth date. It’s nothing against my mother, but I want the little boy to have his own day. Not to mention my older sister was born on my grandpa’s birthday, and she died in infancy from SIDS. Call it superstitious, but he’s getting his own day, and his own luck.

SIDS1 SIDS is a scary term for brand new moms. Correction, it’s a scary term for moms of any newborn. My little boy isn’t even born yet and I’m scared.

Scott and I met with a pediatrician yesterday, and he said the rates have dropped significantly but warned there isn’t much you can do otherwise.

I couldn’t take that lying down, or standing up, for that matter. So I called around and a very helpful physician who’s been researching SIDS since the 1970s said there’s about 2,500 babies that die from SIDS in the U.S. – that’s about 1 in every 250 infants.

Her advice:

1) Don’t let a baby go to sleep on his/her stomach. This one has made the most impact. The U.S. used to have high rates for SIDS (about the same time my parents lost 2 children to it) and when they looked at other countries, this was the biggest difference. And since they started telling parents to put babies to sleep on their backs, numbers have dropped dramatically.

2) Remove everything from crib – blankets, pillow, bumpers. If it’s not the baby, a mattress or a sheet, keep it out.

3) Smoke free environment. I’m actually surprised it needs to be said, but she made a big point of it, so I’m writing it here. Neither Scott or I smoke.

4) Keep baby’s crib in parent’s room. This one really did surprise me. She said they don’t know why it makes a difference. Researchers believe it has to do with the fact that babies often sleep better near the mother, and that mothers are less likely to bring a baby into her own bed to breastfeed in the middle of the night – and subsequently fall asleep – causing a dangerous situation.

The little boy’s crib is right next to our bedroom, and I don’t know whether to move the crib or not. There’s not a ton of room in the bedroom, but if we needed to we could make it work.

Part of me is skeptical – it sounds like the problem they’re trying to avoid is tired moms getting up in the middle of the night and accidentally falling asleep on the couch, or falling asleep with the baby in bed, and the baby getting smothered. But it seems like you just need to keep to a hard and fast rule: make sure the little one is put back in his crib on his back, and breastfeed with either the TV on, or not in bed. But I rarely have to wake up in the middle of the night and stay awake for 20-30 minutes.

Any opinions? Err on the side of caution, or wait & see?



  1. Lana…my advice, as a new mom, is to not worry. Enjoy every second of time you get with the your baby…now and in the many years to come. Even co-sleeping babies have promising outcomes. My little gal wanted to sleep on her side. I worried constantly as she kept rolling her body that way.

    Get yourself a nice baby monitor (they make video monitors now) and keep an eye and ear on the little guy when you need the reassurance. You’ll be up feeding him often enough!

    And…CONGRATULATIONS! I’m so excited for you. You will LOVE being a mom.

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